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Stella is not the first to have done this and certainly will

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Stella is not the first to have done this, and certainly will not be the last. It really is best just to put it down to experience, and say no more about it. Perhaps it was an inner demon giving her the message that, despite the fact that she's been with her boyfriend for five years, she doesn't in fact want to get hitched up with him. Only she can answer that question.One way of handling the issue would be to imagine that her boyfriend had done the same thing to her, and confessed what he'd done. If she thinks that she'd feel a very faint wave of relief, then probably there's something wrong with the relationship. If she thinks she'd feel dreadfully jealous and mistrustful, then she must remember that he would feel the same.But if she feels that she could forgive him and accommodate the idea, if he explained it remorsefully enough, she mustn't take it for granted that he's going to accept her confession in the same spirit. Men are far less forgiving of women's affairs than women are of men's, probably because the fear that their woman has been impregnated by someone else lurks deep in every man, even the newest of the new.Stella doesn't say whether anyone else was aware of what went on.

She must stick to a story in her head - if anyone noticed them going off together - that they did nothing more than part and go home their separate ways. Why does she feel so terribly guilty? Why is she beating herself up for something that really could happen to any one of us, if we got out of control?Could she not forgive herself for this grimy little fling, instead of needing forgiveness from her boyfriend? Or couldn't she confess to someone else, whom she really trusts?It may be best, however, to confess to someone who will never meet her boyfriend, or even to the Samaritans, just in case that third party got tremendously drunk at a party themselves, and blurted it out to someone else.Of course, perhaps the incident was the symptom of a deep-seated misgiving about getting married at all. Or it could be that Stella got indescribably drunk, and when you're indescribably drunk, anything can happen. Perhaps she should feel more guilty about the drinking than about what actually happened.Perhaps it was just one of those things - and perhaps her boyfriend, when he was away, did exactly the same thing himself. He will never be able to go away again without worrying that she's going to be unfaithful.The incident could have been a "one last fling before I'm married" kind of affair In which case there's nothing to worry about. If Stella tells her boyfriend about the incident, however, she may well feel relieved of the guilt she feels about sleeping with this guy, but tremendously guilty about causing her boyfriend pain and mistrust And she must remember that this mistrust will carry on. Stella is marrying her boyfriend of five years soon.

She loves him very much and until recently has been faithful. But when he was away, she went to a party, got drunk, and slept with a stranger She now feels riddled with guilt. Should she tell her boyfriend? WHAT VIRGINIA SAYS Confessions are often a way of getting rid of bad feelings and putting them on to someone else. "I went jogging earlier and it's been so busy today, I've not had time to change." I notice that under the desk she's wearing snake-skin ankle boots - an interesting choice of running shoes.As for her own successes in seduction, she has been happily married for five years now I ask her how she met her husband. "It was five years ago, on a pavement in Rome," she informs me. "He's Italian, he came straight up to me on the street and asked me for a coffee."Perhaps the national model of French Seduction School is not so French after all..

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